as a regular of nellies, and without taking sides, this is my take on the situation.

all managers of all sams pubs have to abide by the rules, or face the sack. unfortunately, people dont often believe they are the brewery rules and think managers are just being petty, so they get unfair blame.
example: no singing is allowed (not even happy birthday), but most times when being told not to sing, customers get upset and probably dont believe its a brewery rule. if humphs was to walk in when such a rule is not being enforced, then i guess the managers are putting their jobs on the line.
so the car park thing is a brewery rule. landlady probably wants your name and phone number to let you know if the car needs moving, or if it's been broken in to, as has happened before in that car park
the upstairs room was great, but isn't closed 'cos of needing a clean. it is closed because if it was open and as full as it used to be, you would be waiting half an hour to get served because of the limited number of staff that can work in the week. brewery rules again
also over the last year, as staffing has been continually cut, managers have relied on volunteers for glass collecting, just to keep the bar stocked with glasses. so again not the managers fault
if the upstairs was open, there would be even more overcrowding in the bar. the pub has continued to get less and less customers due to long waiting times at the bar when busy (this is not so bad recently as pub is quieter). dodgy previous management, who didnt seem to want any customers, and of course all the other usual stuff, like music banned etc.
so ms pearson, whilst i can sympathize with you passion for the pub, and disappointed with the way things are at the moment, you are blaming the wrong people. i think the managers are equally frustrated at the situation, and have gallantly not pointed a finger of blame at the brewery, despite it being their rules which affect things
many sams managers are under pressure (as can be seen at this site) and its not surprising they may have a short fuse with people. daft thing is, you and the managers are on the same side, and probably sharing the same views, but frustrations may have just made the situation all mixed up
just my opinion, but it might be an idea to say something like "i didnt realize about brewery rules, but now i do, can we start again?" or something like that - i mean, well its nearly Christmas
